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Mental health resources & reflections
Therapist-written reflections on people-pleasing, religious trauma, anxiety, attachment, relationships & learning to trust yourself again. Written by me, Emilee, a licensed therapist offering online therapy for women in Alaska, Arizona, Texas, Utah & Washington.
RESOURCES TO REACH FOR WHEN LIFE STARTS FEELING TOO ORDINARY
When life starts feeling a little too ordinary, it's usually not that there's nothing good there, it's that we've stopped noticing. Here are seven of my favorite resources for play, creativity, gratitude and savoring the small stuff.
WHY DO I HAVE TO FEEL MY FEELINGS?
You know why you people-please. You understand your attachment patterns. You can identify your trauma responses in real time—so why do they keep happening? Here’s why understanding ourselves and experiencing something differently aren’t always the same kind of learning.
HOW DO I FEEL SAFE IN MY BODY WHEN I’M ALWAYS ON EDGE?
Knowing you’re safe and actually feeling safe can be two very different things. Here’s what I wish I’d known about cultivating safety (spoiler: it doesn’t require being calm all the time).
WHY CAN’T I FEEL ANGRY?
If you’ve built your whole identity around being understanding and easygoing, anger can feel like an emotion you’re not allowed to have. Reclaiming anger means learning to listen to what it’s trying to tell you.
WHY DO I MAKE EXCUSES FOR HOW PEOPLE TREAT ME?
Ever explain away your own hurt before you’ve even felt it? Here’s how we invalidate ourselves through justifications and excuses, and how to hold context without canceling your experience.
WHY DOES IT HELP TO NAME MY EMOTIONS?
"I feel bad" doesn’t tell you much about what you need. Here’s why name it to tame it works, and how getting more specific with your emotions can help you respond with more intention.
HOW CAN I HOLD TWO FEELINGS AT ONCE?
What if two seemingly contradictory things can both be true? Here’s how swapping "but" for "and" can help you move beyond black-and-white thinking and make room for the complicated people we love (ourselves included).