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Mental health resources & reflections
Therapist-written reflections on people-pleasing, religious trauma, anxiety, attachment, relationships & learning to trust yourself again. Written by me, Emilee, a licensed therapist offering online therapy for women in Alaska, Arizona, Texas, Utah & Washington.
HOW DO I STOP TAKING CARE OF EVERYONE?
Caring about someone doesn’t make you responsible for their feelings, needs and boundaries. Healing people-pleasing often means learning to trust people to take care of themselves.
HOW DO I SAY WHAT I MEAN (& STOP MIND-READING)?
Healthy relationships shouldn’t require constant mind-reading. Owning our words, saying what we mean and trusting other people to do the same, can cut down on so much anxiety, resentment and guessing.
WHAT ARE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES (& WHAT AREN’T THEY)?
Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people or making sure nobody’s ever upset with you. Here are four things boundaries are NOT, and what healthy boundaries actually look like instead.
WHY DOES MY SELF-WORTH DEPEND ON BEING NEEDED?
When being needed becomes how you know you matter, helping can turn into something heavier. Let’s talk about codependency, self-worth, resentment and learning to care without abandoning yourself.
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BLAME & ACCOUNTABILITY?
You can own what you did without deciding you’re a terrible person. Here’s the difference between blame and accountability, and why it changes how we handle conflict.
HOW DO I SET BOUNDARIES WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY?
Boundaries aren’t only about saying no to other people. For people-pleasers especially, they’re how we remember there are two people in a relationship, and we’re one of them!