MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES & REFLECTIONS
explore therapist-written resources about anxiety, trauma, people-pleasing, religious trauma, attachment, relationships & learning to trust yourself.
ACKNOWLEDGING YOUR NEEDS: WHEN YOU’RE USED TO PUTTING EVERYONE ELSE FIRST
If you can easily figure out what everyone else needs but freeze when someone asks what you want, you’re not alone. Here’s how people-pleasing can disconnect us from our needs—and how to start listening to ourselves again.
POLARIZED THINKING: HOW TO RECOGNIZE BLACK-AND-WHITE THINKING
If your brain tends to sort experiences into success or failure, good or bad, and right or wrong, you may be experiencing polarized thinking. Learn why this happens and how to make more room for the gray areas.
NAME IT TO TAME IT: WHY NAMING YOUR EMOTIONS CAN HELP
Sometimes “I feel bad” doesn't give us enough information to know what we need. Learning to name emotions more specifically can help us understand our experience and respond with more intention.
BOUNDARIES: HOW TO LOVE OTHERS WITHOUT ABANDONING YOURSELF
Boundaries aren't just about saying no to other people. They're also about remembering that you are one of the people who deserves care in your relationships.
HUMAN BEINGS, NOT HUMAN DOINGS: WHY YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO EARN LOVE
If you've learned to feel lovable by being helpful, easy, successful, happy, or needed, you may have developed “conditions of worth.” Here's how those invisible rules can shape people-pleasing and the way you show up in relationships.
THE POWER OF “AND”: HOW TO MOVE BEYOND BLACK-AND-WHITE THINKING
What if two seemingly contradictory things can be true at the same time? Learn how replacing “but” with “and” can help you move beyond black-and-white thinking and make room for more complexity in yourself and your relationships.
AM I PEOPLE-PLEASING OR LIVING BY MY VALUES?
Sometimes caring for others comes from our values—and sometimes it comes from needing to feel worthy, needed, or loved. Here’s how to start noticing the difference between living by your values and playing a role.